No man for any considerable period can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true. Nathaniel Hawthorne 
How awful and downright stressful it must be to try to hide who you are to the world, day in and day out. When you've lived for most of your life pretending to be who you aren't for fear that people won't accept you, you can sometimes fool a lot of people. But as they say, you can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can't fool all of the people all of the time.
When gay husbands to straight wives do everything in their power to keep the truth hidden, they are fooling themselves to think, "what she doesn't know won't hurt her". It's hurting her alright. and the kids too. Secrets and lies are forms of deception, and deception kills relationships. So stop fooling yourself and others and BE REAL. Do some soul-searching and learn to accept who you really are. You will find that when you can accept yourself, others will too.
Most every woman who finds out that she has been married to a gay man is infinitely MORE devastated by the lies and deception than she is about the fact that her husband is gay. Yes, it is a shock, BUT it is the deception that hurts the most.
TELL the TRUTH
debbie
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